So, Loralai stopped sleeping.
Okay, not really stopped, but these past few weeks have been a little rough (at times, a lot rough). Previously, night after night, we’d been able to put her to bed in her crib at 8pm and she’d fall asleep quietly without complaint. Then one night, everything changed. She threw a fit, crawled out of her crib, and it was game over. Since that night, she’s practically refused to nap during the day (previously, we were still getting a good 3 hours out of her), and every night we wait for her to get sleepy, but she’s literally bouncing off the walls till 11. JD and I have barely had a moment to ourselves in weeks, and I’m clinging to my last shred of sanity.
My biggest frustration with this is that it’s a problem seemingly without a resolution. I’m not really sure what the cause of all of this is… 2 year molars/teething? 2 year sleep regression? Separation anxiety? Some hellish combination of those 3? And without an explanation, I don’t know how to resolve it. It’s killin’ me.
The weird thing is, she wasn’t cutting back on sleep before this happened. She wasn’t showing signs that she needed shorter naps or less nighttime sleep, but since cutting back so drastically, she hasn’t been acting tired either. She is full of energy and literally bouncing off the walls till 11pm, even if she skips her daytime nap altogether. Plus, even after she goes to bed so late, she’s not really sleeping in a whole lot.
We did end up taking down her crib and moving the toddler bed into her room, because she continued to crawl out of her crib after that first time, but she doesn’t seem to be upset about the bed or having trouble with that transition. She actually loves the bed; she’ll sit in it and look at books during the day, and once she does fall asleep, she’ll sleep soundly in it throughout the night.
Most nights, the only way to get her to fall asleep is to let her lay in our bed with us. She doesn’t want to be left in her own room by herself (we’re talking screaming her head off without any sign of relenting… “crying it out” isn’t an option with this kid). It hasn’t really mattered what time we brought her to bed with us, she still won’t fall asleep till 11, but when she is finally sleepy, she’ll curl up next to me and ask me to hold her hand (in a lot of ways, this has been very sweet, but after a few weeks of this, also somewhat irritating). After she was sound asleep, we could move her to her own room and she’d sleep fine in there, but her clingy-ness is what’s making me wonder if this is a separation anxiety thing.
Last night, at 11:30, I’d lost all patience and stuck her in her own bed. She cried for a few minutes, then fell asleep. Not sure if this is a small victory, or if she was just too exhausted to fight it anymore.
My office has been closed for the last week for a “winter break,” so we’re back to our normal routine starting Monday. I’m hoping that getting back into our usual work/daycare routine will kind of force her back into her usual schedule. She can’t be staying up till 11 if I have to wake her up at 6:30…. Or at least I hope she can’t continue staying up till 11.
Lord, help me.