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To Speak or To Keep Your Mouth Shut: The Police Wife’s Dilemma

The first rule of being a police wife: Never read the comments section.

Seriously just don’t.  It’s nearly impossible not to take some of the accusations and hatred personally.  After all, they’re attacking the integrity, the very heart of our LEOs- the men and women who sit at the center of our lives, of our children’s lives.  Who we watch strap on that vest every day and do the impossible.  The things they do, the things they see, it takes someone special to dedicate their life to that type of work.  You can’t just sit back and let them be berated.

So you’re compelled to respond, though your response likely won’t change anyone’s opinion anyway.  You’ll go around and around in circles till you’re shaking with anger.  It will take you to a very dark, very negative place.

I resent any implication that my husband is racist, blood thirsty, lazy, or any other hateful term that comes with the territory.  I know him better than anyone in the media, better than the Internet trolls, better than some bullshit cop hate blog. I can assure you he is none of these things. In fact, he is the opposite. He is called to a life of service; his soul craves it.  Do you know how rare and beautiful these people are?  Nothing else has fulfilled him the way his military and law enforcement experience has.  I rarely see him happier than when he comes home after feeling like he truly made a difference in someone’s life and helped them in some way.  Nothing hurts him more than to feel like he couldn’t do enough to save or help someone.

And you…. You who are hiding behind your computer screens talking about things you’ve never experienced.  I don’t see you stepping up to a life of service.  I see your ego and self-righteousness making things worse.  I see you causing the hatred, the hurt, and the problem.  So maybe you should strap on that vest and work alongside my husband for a few days.  I’d love to see what you have to say then.

4 thoughts on “To Speak or To Keep Your Mouth Shut: The Police Wife’s Dilemma

  1. This is a breath of fresh air. I wish I could shout this from the rooftops and MAKE people see what we see everyday. I have u followed so many “friends” the past month over this very topic. The negativity is hurtful, and I couldn’t bear to absorb it anymore. Not many people are as passionate about their jobs as the ones who serve.

    • Very hurtful, and it’s gotten so much worse lately. It’s gone from the stereotypes and cop jokes to really awful accusations. I find that so many people blow off my “opinion” on the topic because I have a bias, but the truth is, we live and see this every day. No one knows better than we do, but we can’t make them see…

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