With as many challenges that come with being a LEOW, there are certainly plenty of advantages.
First and foremost, the uniform, obviously. What lady DOESN’T love a man in uniform? It’s one thing to use a man in uniform as eye candy, it’s another thing when your own husband happens to be your eye candy 🙂
On a more serious note….
When I reflect on the time that JD has spent as a LEO, the one word that comes to mind is strength. I’m not just referring to the physical and mental strength it takes for him to be out patrolling the streets, but the strength it takes for me to support his career, and the strength it takes for our relationship to survive it. This job- this lifestyle- has made me stronger as an individual and made us stronger as a couple.
Although I consider myself a pretty independent person, I used to have anxiety about being alone at night. I thought every little noise meant someone was breaking in to torture and kill me. But the more nights I’ve spent alone, the less scary it has become, partially because I’ve gotten used to it, but partially because you reach a point where you realize I’m going to spend 25% of my nights alone and it’s just too much wasted energy to be worried about it all the time (of course, having 3 giant guard/attack dogs doesn’t hurt). If he spent every night by my side, I never would have overcome that fear, because I would have become dependent on him being there. I don’t need him because I can’t need him. That’s simply not an option, whether we’re talking about nighttime anxiety or dealing with car maintenance or lifting an 80 pound dog into a SUV- the option to defer to him isn’t always there.
That’s not to say we’re not a team. We each have to do a lot of things on our own, but without teamwork, patience, and good communication, we would be lost. We have to approach all aspects of our life and marriage as equals, and be willing to pull a little extra weight when the other is feeling overwhelmed. I know that’s true of any marriage and is certainly not unique to a LEO marriage, but it seems the stressors of his job leave less room for error in his personal/family life.
Strength. That is what a life in law enforcement has given us. Well, that and uniforms. Both things to be thankful for 🙂